Good day/night, I'm not good with talking, I'm not good with socializing, I'm not good at maintaining friendships. I do not quite know what to do about it anymore.
Should I keep trying? I have been trying to turn around my social life for god knows how long but I don't feel like it's working and since I'm getting older™ I wonder if it's really worth it to waste my time to make new connections when I will need to look after myself soon.
I have not been able to maintain a single friendship except for one single offline friend group which is a miracle that they still like me at all.
Do I blame my parents for being overtly restrictive of my hobbies, friends, and media consumption, to the point where I can't even hold a conversation as an 18 year old without fumbling it?
Do I blame my previous school for the horrible environment I had to endure for half a decade or so?
Do I blame myself for something? anything? maybe I'm just lazy, maybe it's a disorder, maybe I'm just underdeveloped, maybe I just don't want my life to get better, maybe people just don't like me.
Well, it's kinda too late to think about this stuff, isn't it? I don't need friends, not anymore I guess. I can live alone, I lived alone for my whole life, why would anything change?
On a better note, fixing the rest of my life is going well. Started waking up more at 5am and getting work done before classes begin, and so far I am quite content with how it has been, empty roads and seats are comforting for the first 4ish hours but I do think this is the most productive I have been in a while.
I do feel like I relate to you on multiple points. A few friends is something I strive to maintain, Without the social connection the everyday feels colourless. Taking up exercise like walking, running, cycling, swimming etc helps but true connections aren't easy to build had harder still to find once lost.
i think it is important to have friends but it is def harder then it used to be. i'd suggest small online communities for things you are interested in c:
Yeah, it sure does feel like it is harder.
As for small communities, I have tried that, it is why I'm here :>
I am still trying because it has to work eventually, right? Monkey typewriter situation, if I went on forever I will eventually reach something.
very true! my current two most active communities im in (well 3 but two of them forked off a bigger community so i consider them one) are for a book that is being written who i am now friends with the writers due to the years of hanging out in a small discord server, and now im writing the website for the book!
the other community was a neiche indie game called blaseball, it ended about a year ago and only ran for two, but the community has held pretty strong and i have made life long friends from it c: