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Trying to cope with the fear of death

~ropocl

If a thing never ends, or changes it becomes un-special.

Fully experience the special thing while you can. After it ends, keep the memories alive if you wish.

Memories can be revived with similar experiences, but one cannot cross the same river twice.

A person doesn't know what they've completely forgotten.

Are mourning and grief simply pity at the thought of someone else forgetting, or never having known?

Can we avoid them be experiencing mindfully, remembering clearly and helping others do the same?

Is fear of our own death actually fear of being forgotten?

Can we subdue the fear of death be endeavoring to be remembered fondly?


ruenoak

Interesting read thanks, I recently lost someone very close to me, and it was the first time I have been conscious about my own mortality. Your post and other comments have been helpful.

Thanks

R

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samo
As birth is parth of life, it is also conception. Death is also life. Its all Life. Fear is like a brake to the life, it will maybe give you more time - but it wont bring you further.
Sometimes you have to be the killer to open up space for the life.
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petpave

This is what bing chat says:

1. Is fear of our own death actually fear of being forgotten?

The fear of death is a complex topic and can be caused by different reasons. One of the reasons is the fear of being forgotten after death. This fear is common among many people and is rooted in the idea that once we die, our memory and legacy will fade away, and we will be forgotten by the world. This fear can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression.

2. Can we subdue the fear of death be endeavoring to be remembered fondly?

It is possible that by endeavoring to be remembered fondly, one can subdue the fear of death. However, there are many ways to overcome the fear of death. Some of these ways include exercise, meditation, talk therapy and support, changing habits, exposure therapy, seeking professional support and getting therapy.

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shakfox

I had a great time reading "Under the Whispering Door" by TJ Klune.

I feel like it attempts at putting the period on some of these paradoxical questions. After a life of reeling extremely hard under the pressure of existential crisis, it was a novel that gripped me to the extent of spending hours a day reading in an attempt to find solace.

Do check it out.

:)

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ropocl

Thanks for the rec! I've spent the last decade disassembling a fundamentalist upbringing (and career!) so I'm always open to some form of existential relief :)

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