Exasperated

I really need to stop looking at comments on normie social media like Facebook. This has absolutely soured my perception of other humans. People are so angry about things that don't actually matter and everyone on all sides is such a hardline ideologue you can't even talk to them.

Who fucking cares how people dress? Who they have relationships with? Who they fuck? Why is there always so much toxic vitriol about this?

I suppose it can feel like this is a more productive channel for the righteous anger we all feel right now with the state of the world. However, it isn't. Bickering over the same culture-war bullshit as always, as if it were still 2017 (just dialed up to 11) will only serve to make us all miserable, lonely, atomized misanthropes.

This exasperates me to no end. I'm trying my best to not let it, but that is quite difficult.

kirk781

Facebook peaked nearly a decade ago. I opened my Facebook profile just for sake of it sometime ago and many of the profiles were just remnants of the past.

Of course, many of them have moved to Instagram which is even worse [the desktop site must have been made intentionally this bad] or just communicate via messaging apps [looks at Whatsapp].

Reddit was quite good until they killed most third party clients and now, overrun by bots as well. It had it's moderation problems [a lot] but still decent. New Reddit UI is a disaster.

There is Lemmy [a decentralized option like Reddit] and even Digg is in public beta now.

softwarepagan

All of these share many of the same issues. There are two acceptable groupthink bubbles and the overwhelming majority of people follow them lock-step. Lemmy isn't as bad as Hexbear in this but it's still pretty bad. Ironically the corporate spaces have loosened up a little about this but they're still cesspools.

bitdweller

You really need to, man. It's just not worth it.

~bartender Can I have a coffee? Black and large, please.

It really isn't. The real shame is: there's now no other way of keeping in touch with the world not-so-around you. There was a time I'd follow interesting people, artists, developers, techies, even small businesses of stuff I like. Recipes. Projects for the greater good, businesses that have a mission to improve the world. People that teach stuff online. Respectful parenting tips. It was good. It was nice.

But now, even these nice people need to succumb to shitposting. Even these nice people need to shitpost to stay relevant.

Thanks, ~bartender.

I hate it. I have removed all social media from my phone. I only browse Reddit on a basic front-end I have built and Hacker News. But I'm losing stuff. I'm not getting when band X is playing in town. I'm not getting when my favourite tattoo artist is in town. I don't know if band X launch a new album.

It sucks.

It sucks that there's all there is. It sucks that we can't really federate.

It really sucks.

Well, I'm this old bloke, see? And there was a time before facebook et al. I can clearly remember it. So maybe it helps to think, that these "networks" shut down the day there are too few active logins left to convince advertisers to spend their cash. And every non-login counts.

~bartender? A hot chocolate please. They say a snow storm is brewing up.

teacup

Hey ~bartender, happy new year, can I have a screwdriver in a pretty glass?

I don't know what that stress is all about, but I can honestly say unplugging helps so so much.

Can't always think about negativity when you're alone in the woods, at some point the pleasant smell of trees must hit you.

I just think more people should unplug before answering; let it sit, then answer the day after, after all the clickbaity, ragey energy has left.

Oh, the drink's gone, may I have a orange juice refill please?